Welcome to Tirthaguru - A guide to Spiritual Destinations in India

"We are fortunate enough to get this precious human birth after cycles of births. We should utilize this birth for our eternal good. You are not to kill yourself, but you are to kill bad motives, bad thoughts."
"We should take absolute shelter at the Lotus Feet of Gurudeva who will be indicated by the attributes of being well versed in the Vedas and equivalent scriptures, receiving transcendental Divine message through preceptorial line, as well as having realization of the Divinity."
"It will not be wise to devote out valuable time and energy of this precious human birth for mundane affairs and mundane temporary benefits. Efforts in this world will not produce lasting result."
There is no difficulty in the worship of Sri Krisna, as He is nearest and dearest. He is residing within our hearts. He does not see mundane merits. He sees the sincerity of our hearts whether we actually want Him or not. One who sincerely wants Him, will surely get Him. You submit all your prayers to Him sincerely. He will fulfill your desires."
Sreela Vishvanath Chakravorty in his commentary explained the characteristics of a Bonafide Guru. Gurudeva should be well-versed in the Vedas and other allied scriptures. An aspirant disciple cannot progress in his worship of God without taking shelter of a really qualified Bonafied Guru, who should have the capacity of removing the doubts of disciples by reasoning substantiated with evidence from authentic scriptures. If Gurudeva is incapable of removing the doubts of the disciple, the disciple's belief in Him may slacken. The second characteristic of Gurudeva is that He should have realisation of the Divinity. Only by theoretical knowledge of the scriptures, without having practical realisation, Spiritual Guide cannot give proper advice and direction in accordance to the eligibility of the disciple. By the instruction of a Guru possessing the quality of practical realisation, the disciple can have actual spiritual progress. It is to be considered here, a disciple can have the capacity to comprehend scriptural knowledge of Gurudeva by hearing from Him; but how can a disciple understand whether Gurudeva has got realisation of Divinity or not? Supreme Lord is Transcendental Reality, His Absolute Counterpart Gurudeva is also Transcendental. Therefore, a neophyte votary cannot understand Gurudeva's realisation of Divinity by his own endeavour.
There are two aspects of Supreme Lord and His Absolute Counterpart Gurudeva — (1) morphological aspect and (2) ontological aspect. Conditioned souls can by their mind, intellect and sense-organs grasp the morphological, i.e. the external aspect of the thing — thing as it appears — and not the thing as it is. The thing as it is, can be realised only by the grace of Transcendental Realities, through unconditional complete surrender. As for example the self-luminous sun can only be known by it's own light and not by the help of other lights. We can not see sun in the night with the help of other lights, but when sun rises, by accepting the grace of the sun—it's light— we can see the sun and all things of this world in the proper perspective. Supreme Lord and His Absolute Counterpart Gurudeva are self-effulgent. Sree Vishwanath Chakravarty Thakur, in his commentary, has given to the bonafide neophyte aspirants, a clue to recognise Guru by one external quality - a Bonafide Guru is not subdued by passions— anger, greed etc. Of course, realised soul can use the passions for the service of Supreme Lord and for the eternal benefit of conditioned souls, but He can never be subjugated by them. Sree Narottam Thakur has advised us how the cardinal passions can be used for the service of Sree Krishna, except for malice —`kama krodha¸akaram¡rpa¸, krodha bhaktadv®À¢jan®, l°bha s¡dhusa´g® harikath¡, m°ha iÀal¡bhavin®, mada k¤À¸agu¸g¡ne niyukta kariba yath¡ tath¡'. Kama —passion for fulfilment of desires should be diverted to desire to serve Krishna, `anger' should be used against those who are hostile to devotees, `greed' should be employed to increase the desire to hear Hari-Katha from a bonafide sadhu, `infatuation' should be over not being able up till now to utilise the valuable time of this precious human birth for worship of Sree Krishna and `madness' should be after singing the glories of Sree Krishna. Even Narada Goswami, out of compassion, used anger on the sons of Kuber- Nalkuber and Manigriva- to rescue them. According to Gita, the cause of anger is obstruction to fulfilment of one's desire. A real devotee cannot have any desire of his own except service of Sree Krishna. So, in a pure devotee, there cannot be any possibility of the origination of such anger due to hindrance to worldly desires.
Never forget to give respect and pay obeisances to your parents. It is out of ignorance we blame others for our distress. The wise do not blame others for their sufferings. We reap the fruits of our own actions, others may be instrumental. Always remember the teachings of Sree Suniti Devi to tolerate than to retaliate.
No man in this world can be identical with another. Differences exist in their births, actions and association; in nature they will be different. It is impossible to make the environment adjusted to me. I am to adjust myself with the environment. Nobody can remain in peace in family or society without tolerance. When we resolve to do one thing and when there is an obstruction to it we become unbalances. By non-determination (Asankalpa), we can conquer desires, and by conquering desires, we can conquer anger.